Preventive Measures for Divorce: Strategies to Strengthen Your Marriage

Divorce is a common issue that affects many families around the world. It can have devastating consequences for individuals, children, and communities. While some marriages may be beyond repair, there are many preventive measures that couples can take to strengthen their relationship and avoid divorce.

Here are some Preventive measures for divorce 

• Don’t ever think of divorce. In this changing society, personal space and freedom have become our necessity. When two people get married and decide to spend the rest of their life with each other, then we have to make some adjustments. Those adjustments can make the husband and wife feel that they have lost the freedom and start fighting over small matters. This can cause the couple to think that divorce can be the only option to make life better. Such thinking should be removed from the mind.
• Respect each other. In a relationship, one should always treat the other with respect. The husband always wants to see his wife treat him with respect. Likewise, a wife wants to feel that her husband has always cared for her. Therefore, both husband and wife should respect each other.
• Communicate with each other. The world has stepped its foot in the digitization world. The global world has become narrower because of the internet. Nepalese society has also become part of the same digitalized world. Most people no matter where you live spend most of their time with their smartphones or TV. Because of which, husband and wife have forgotten to spend time with each other. But what we forget is human beings have always been the social creature. Human beings forward their life through love, hate, anger, and emotions like these.
• Do the Household expenses together. Money is one of the major causes of divorce in Nepal as well as in other countries. Most couples fight over money matters because they do not share their income and expenses with each other. They do not make a budget together and do not follow it either.
• Give your time to your family. Time is precious and so is your family. You should always give priority to your family over anything else. You should spend quality time with your spouse and children. You should plan some family outings, vacations, or picnics once in a while.
• Forgive immediately. No one is perfect in this world. Everyone makes mistakes and learns from them. Therefore, you should not hold grudges against your spouse for his/her mistakes. You should forgive him/her immediately and move on.
• Don’t try to control each other. Everyone has their own personality, preferences, opinions, and choices. You should not try to change your spouse according to your liking or force him/her to do something he/she does not want to do. You should respect your spouse’s individuality and autonomy.
• Get timely consultation from an expert. Sometimes, it is better to seek help from a professional counselor or therapist when you face some serious issues in your marriage. They can help you understand your problems better and guide you to find solutions.
• Be physically and mentally ready to prevent divorce. Divorce is not an easy decision to make. It can have a lot of negative consequences on your physical and mental health as well as on your children’s well-being. Therefore, you should be physically and mentally prepared to face the challenges of divorce if you decide to go for it.
• Be accountable and answerable to each other. Marriage is a partnership where both partners share equal responsibilities and duties towards each other and their family. You should not hide anything from your spouse or lie to him/her about anything important. You should be honest and transparent with your spouse and answer his/her questions sincerely.
• Make time to connect lovingly with your spouse every day. A couple can significantly improve their chances of marital success by devoting as little as 15 minutes a day exclusively to each other. For instance, you could wake up a little earlier, and spend the extra time in bed cuddling, making love, and reaffirming your love for each other.
• Compliment your spouse regularly—both in private and in front of others. Even if your partner seems embarrassed or shrugs it off at first, the glow from sincere praise lasts a long time.
• Love your spouse in the way he/she wants to be loved. We often make the mistake of assuming that the things that touch our hearts the most deeply will affect our partner in the same way. For instance, you may think red roses are the perfect gift, but to your spouse, they represent a waste of money and an allergy attack.
• Take care of your appearance. Look your best for your spouse. Lose the ratty sweat pants or frayed sweater he/she hates so much; you can find other comfortable

In conclusion, divorce should not be considered as an easy way out of marital problems. Instead, couples should focus on preventing divorce by respecting each other, communicating effectively, sharing household expenses, spending quality time with their family, forgiving each other, and seeking help from experts when necessary. It is important to be physically and mentally prepared for the challenges of divorce if it becomes the only option. Being accountable, transparent, and affectionate towards each other can help strengthen the bond between husband and wife. By following these preventive measures, couples can improve their chances of a successful and long-lasting marriage.